Recently I started the process of becoming a fully fledged EFT or Emotionally Focused Therapist working with couples in distress in a very particular way: a way which helps them recognise how they play out their original attachment histories, and how to repair disconnection. Here is a short video with Dr Sue Johnson with whom I trained to certification level one last year, and Dr Edward Tronick, explaining one of the key factors in why disconnection is so distressing and how healing and soothing reconnection is.